SHE WANTS A CHANGE NOT A BREAK-UP
It’s an undeniable fact that communication drives relationships, and anytime it breaks down the relationship is affected as well. But more especially when we are not communicating well with our partners. It can be frustrating and many partners lose their cool. One classic example is when your partner is not happy yet you don’t know what is wrong with them.
You try your best to know what is wrong they tell you they are okay yet their body language and actions speak the opposite. Some partners, especially men, can not take it, they assume she is not happy with them and she is not willing to say it so they are quick to ask for a break-up.
The fact that she is not happy in the marriage or relationship or doesn’t look cheerful doesn’t mean she wants to leave the relationship or marriage. Leaving is not as easy as people see it especially when you have come to love your partner and want things to work between you two, you pray and hope for the best.
Many a times men don’t understand women and the dangerous part is, they try to speak or think for her. How do you interpret a signal you don’t understand? Instead of trying to find out why she is feeling so, we worsen the situation by assuming. She might not be opening up to you because she has tried a couple of times but you refused to listen or hear anything about it.
No woman who truly loves and cares for you will pretend to be fine or okay when things are not going well in a relationship or marriage. Their emotions, physical expression, body language gives them out. She is not showing such indicators because she wants to leave the relationship. It’s for you to recognize there is something wrong which needs to be attended to.
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Even if you are the cause, they are not against you as a person, it’s your actions that worry them, which they wished you could change or do something about it. Think about it in this way, when a car is low on fuel, the fuel gauge indicates that to you. The car is not telling you, it doesn’t want to take you to your destination, it is just telling you, there is something wrong that needs urgent attention.
Instead of getting mad at the car, you should look for the solution that is to refill your fuel tank. Women behave in the same way, so instead of getting mad at her, asking her if she is not willing to continue the relationship, that she should let you know or go, rather find out from her as a friend and someone who loves her, what is wrong with her and how best you can help resolve the situation or bring about harmony to the relationship.
You don’t use that time to look for someone else because she is not happy with you. You don’t expect her to fake smiles and put up a show for you. When you do that, you won’t go far with the relationship for you are not addressing the very thing that will cause the relationship to travel or work.
It’s not easy for her to express her emotions, it’s not easy for her to translate the non-verbal to verbal, she needs patience, a partner who is understanding, a partner who will give her room and listening ears, a partner who will create a better or friendly environment for her to let it all out without judging her or making her feel bad.
She only considers moving on or leaving the relationship when your actions prove to her you are not ready or willing to change or be a friend who understands her pain and frustration. Be a sensitive and loving partner, such people have a beautiful heart and soul. they see their partner through the lens of love.
In conclusion, “Don’t quit your job simply because the boss is angry with you. If you remain calm and helpful, you can correct even great mistakes” – Ecclesiastes 10:4 (ERV).
Thank you for reading. ©️ Frank Edem Adofoli